The Next Generation of Muslims In America

Every time I hear something wild  about our current society, I tell my family, we really need to move out of this country. What will my grandchildren face here? How will they hold onto their deen? It would be like trying to grow a strong, healthy plant in a bucket of sewage. My youngest son was watching a cartoon one day and I noticed one of the characters had two dads. The cartoon is called, "The Loud House," and features a biracial gay couple.

Just in case you don't believe it, the Huffington Post wrote an article, "Meet the Animated Gay Dads Who'll Make their Nickelodeon Debut." I will post the link to the article here mentioning the gay dads on this cartoon aired on Nickelodeon.

Huffington Post Article on Gay Cartoon

Recently, I saw this article stating that 6 states in the USA have made it legal for women to walk around shirtless, with their breasts and more specifically, their nipples exposed. I'm beside myself to be honest. I don't understand how we got to private parts not being private anymore. Here is a link to that news:

Women Allowed to Go Topless in Public


I'm in Texas, so three of the 6 states are basically our neighbors in one direction or other. It was bad enough that people are dressed but naked (meaning the clothing is see through or so tight that everyone can see the shape of every crevice of the body) as described in this hadith: 

Abu Salih reported: Abu Huraira, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Some women are clothed but naked, inclining to evil and seducing with it. They will not enter Paradise, nor smell its fragrance, even though it can be found from a distance of five hundred years of travel.”

Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1694

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رضي الله عنه أَنَّهُ قَالَ نِسَاءٌ كَاسِيَاتٌ عَارِيَاتٌ مَائِلَاتٌ مُمِيلَاتٌ لَا يَدْخُلْنَ الْجَنَّةَ وَلَا يَجِدْنَ رِيحَهَا وَرِيحُهَا يُوجَدُ مِنْ مَسِيرَةِ خَمْسِ مِائَةِ عَامٍ

1694 موطأ مالك

13/202 المحدث ابن عبدالبر خلاصة حكم المحدث مرفوع من وجوه صحاح في التمهيد

Apparently this is part of a GLOBAL movement. How is this women's rights or gender equality? Women don't have equal pay for equal work. That is something to fight for but to fight to be naked? What gives them the right to impose their nakedness on everyone else? So their answer would be that I'm imposing my belief that breasts shouldn't be exposed on them. Well my answer is where does it end. Men can say the same thing and ask for their private parts to be exposed in public. What then? 

Their argument is that women's breasts are being stereotyped but not men's. So they're saying that women's breasts are not sex objects. 

The moral fabric of this society is not loosening, its unraveling at the speed of light. I feel like we are frogs in that pot of water that keeps heating up. Before we know it, we're cooked. 

In my own area(Dallas-Fort-Worth, Texas) , male teenagers are stating they want to identify as girls and are joining the girls' track team, beating all the real girls and no one can do anything about it.

Like Hot Coals

It seems every time I turn around I see another sad Muslim parent. It isn't that Muslim kids are turning to Christianity. You are very hard pressed to find a young practicing Christian. The Muslim kids are turning to all sorts of sins. It is shocking when they grow up in a practicing family who has done everything to shelter their child from this toxic environment. But then when you really look at the environment, are we ever truly able to shelter our children? I sometimes feel like the Muslim parent is in the middle of tornado trying to preach the good word to our kids. We are in the middle of nasty storm which is churning up and circulating the foulest scum around our families. It is loud, it stinks, and it has made this deen truly hard to hold onto, like hot coals as Rasoolulah (the Messenger of Allah) said it would be. 

Will Our Grandchildren be Muslim? 

I was listening to a lecture where the khateeb mentioned the story of two men who came to the Michigan area a few generations ago. One decided to move back to their home country. The one who stayed here, his grandchildren have all become Christian or are simply not Muslims anymore. Are you able to imagine meeting your grandchildren as polytheist, gay or transgender? If that day every came to us, I'm certain, we would wish we could go back in time to see what we could do to protect our kids from the awful decisions that would lead to this. At that time, it will be too late. That's why I'm asking, what could we do now? The video can not be played because it is being censored by Youtube. I can assure you there is nothing worth censoring in there except honest Islamic advice. You can find it on Youtube under the title: Adivce on Hijra: You Be the Judge. The Khateeb is Sheikh Musa Jibreel. 

What is Your Greatest Fear For Your Kids? 

Is your greatest fear each day for your kids which college degree or career they will have? Is it their financial strength? Or is it that they will fall into shirk? Are you afraid each day that they will lose the La illaha illallah in their hearts? 

Is There Any Solution? 

Is there any solution for us? I ask parents this all time. The most common answer I get is to put the kids in Islamic school, do your best with them and pray as hard as you can. A little disclaimer, I'm not against Islamic Schools. I worked at a couple here in Texas and I can say the staff work extremely hard to create the best environment for the Muslims students. 

While there are a great number of absolutely amazing students at the Islamic Schools, I've seen a good share of Islamic School students, even some who are Hafidh Quran (memorized the entire Quran by heart) who have worse manners than an ape in the jungle or have boyfriends and girlfriends while going to the Islamic School. Sadly, we see girls whose parents paid Islamic School fees for their daughters their entire lives, graduate and publicly post pics of themselves uncovered, drinking alcohol in a club. It truly is like holding onto hot coals. It isn't anything the parents or teachers are doing wrong. It is the greater society that is calling our kids via the internet, social media etc toward following the lower desires. 

The Islamic School is great for those who can afford the fees but, it is not a complete solution. The Islamic School is in the middle of the tornado as well. And beware, many parents with totally out of control kids drop their kids in the Islamic Schools hoping that it will save them. So the naive, innocent kids will learn all the craziness from the wild ones there. 

I remember 10 years ago, before things were this bad, I would bring up the possibility of moving out of this country to other parents to see if it were an option. Most parents would respond with more questions which I needed answers to as well. Questions like, where should we go? Where can we go? Or they would comment, "There is no true Muslim country to go to." So we sat here and watched our children grow in this toxic environment feeling we had no option. Either you're a Muslim from a foreign land and left your home country for a reason so you don't see moving back as an option, or you're like me, American with no family or passports in any other country to go to. 

I don't think any of us foresaw the drastic decline in society that has occurred in the last decade. I graduated high school in 1997, 23 years ago in the USA. There were a couple guys who I was suspicious of being homosexual but I couldn't say for sure. My oldest son graduated high school in 2017, 20 years later. In his high school experience, not only are the lesbians and gay men outwardly homosexual, but students argue that there is no such thing as gender. 

Now I'm asking, what do we expect to come of our grandchildren when our kids are struggling as they are? I was at a high school graduation in Aurora(near Denver), Colorado a few years back. This particular high school, (Overland High) is so loaded with Muslims, particularly Somali and Arab that even the students who are not Muslim are picking up the lingo and say things like, "Walahi" etc. Do you remember the story about a high school Muslim girl who was banned from competing in a soccer match because of her hijab so the rest of her team put on a hijab as well? That was at Overland High School.  

One of the young men who gave a speech was an Arab Muslim. Graduating Muslim students had warned me that there was an outwardly gay boy at school but his parents didn't know about it. As soon as he got on the microphone, I knew it had to be him. It was obvious in his voice and how he spoke. It made me sad for the parents who didn't pick up on it when everyone in gym could hear it by his manner of speech. 

The students also told me he was trying to convince his middle school age brother to be gay as well. You may be wondering, how do his parents not realize he is gay? I don't know but my suspicion is that facing the truth would hurt too much so they may be in denial. I really can't blame the parents at all. May Allah bring him back to the deen. 

My point in this situation is about the environment though. Even at a school flooded with hijabs and even long black abayas, the greater environment here in the USA is so toxic, you have this young Muslim man who is among the brightest and clearly highly charismatic, well-spoken students at his school completely demoralized and lost in homosexuality. 

In Texas, I've heard of cases where Muslim students from the public high schools are driving up to the Islamic School to buy their drugs from the Muslim students there. No one wants to hear or talk about these realities but they are real and factual. Every time you turn around, another parents feels they lost their child to this dunya. 

Are Parents Deciding to Move? 

So today, I am hearing some parents considering actually leaving the USA. They aren't talking about going back to their home countries. Instead, they are looking at other Muslim countries that have jobs and a somewhat comparable standard of living to the USA. While my family was visiting the massive, bustling city of Istanbul, we had the bizarre experience of recognizing a family we know from Texas. They weren't Turkish but felt inclined to come visit this Muslim country. Since I've come back, I've heard some families contemplating expatriating to the U.A.E., Turkey, and other countries in the Middle East. Is this a possibility? 

What other options do Muslim parents have here? I know of one Muslim parent who always tells me she wishes she could take her kids and move to a remote location in the USA and live off some farmland so she can protect her children from the fitnah. If I could do that, I probably would as well. I am looking for solutions myself. I can say this though. While visiting various cities in Turkey, I felt as if the clock was turned back some years. Not in the sense of modernism because it is very modern. But the social fabric is woven much tighter in Turkey.  I heard the adthan throughout the day, I saw most women dressed modestly. I felt comfortable as a Muslim there and wished I had been able to raise my children there all these years. 

I wish I had a solution to present. I'm writing this to call attention to the issues, to hear your comments and solutions. How are you managing? Have you considered expatriating to another country? Please do share in the comment section. 

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